As I became more confident in who I was, men picked up on my new empowered self and they were then eager to journey to my southern region The Snapchats my friends and I send each other are mostly just double chins and weird pictures of our pets with some dumb caption. As a teen, if one of those pictures gets out at school, your whole social life is over. Snapchat disappears so quickly, whatever you say will not be traced back to you. Ruby Karp is a feminist, comedian and journalist.